Waves

Hello all you wonderful people!
Hope you are doing well. I've had a rough week, with a lot of anxiety, and a low mood. Things haven't been as good as I've wanted them to be. Anxiety comes to me at certain times, it just hits me like a big freight train that comes out of nowhere. It is very hard to deal with it, and because of my comorbidity with OCD my anxiety makes my compulsions worse, which makes it feel like I take a step back in my recovery.

What is important to remember with any disease, especially mental health disorders, is that recovery is not linear. It does not go from bad to better and then good. It goes up and down and down and up, constantly changing like waves. With chronic illnesses like a lot of mental health disorders - complete recovery and being "cured" is not a possibility and accepting that takes time. I feel like I have come to terms with OCD, anxiety and depression being a constant part of my life, but I still get weighed down when I have a dip.

I don't really know where I wanted to go with this post, I just want to be honest on the blog, and I want it to be clear that I don't always feel okay. And it's okay not to feel okay. Be kind to yourself, especially when you are feeling bad.

I am personally feeling loads better, the intensity of my anxiety has decreased. I had a great Friday evening and I just wanted to thank all those people who wrote kind and caring words to me during this hard week.

I hope you will all have a fantastic weekend! I am going to rest myself so that I am ready for next week! What are your weekend plans?

Blouse: Chicwish (old)

Skirt: Vivien of Holloway (here)

Petticoat: ModCloth (here)

Heels: BAIT footwear via Unique Vintage (here)

About the outfit, real quickly. I wore my lovely red Vivien of Holloway circle skirt again (last time), but I paired it with an old batwinged blouse from Chicwish. Finally I added some Ione heels from BAIT that are both comfy and so pretty. The inspiration behind this outfit was again the character Ann from Roman Holiday played by the one and only Audrey Hepburn. This was inspired by her outfit pre-makeover.

Take care of yourselves and each other!

Much love,

Silly nilly

Hello lovely people!
I hope you are all doing great. I'm posting this a bit earlier than I had planned, but it's because I couldn't sit on this outfit any longer, I love it so!!

This dress from Dear Creatures (that I got via ModCloth) is one of my favourite dresses. It's business on the top and party on the bottom. I adore how it is classic and quirky at the same time. I love all the little details, and I enjoy wearing it so much. I especially like wearing it with red accents, which I have here.

One of the red accessories I had in this outfit was my red beret. On instagram (@curlsncakes), I asked if wearing a beret indoors was silly?

I got plenty of kind and nice answers saying that it wasn't silly and to go for it.
I did go for it, and wore it all night for a party that took place indoors. And I didn't feel silly at all. But I came to the conclusion that if you wear something you feel comfortable in, even if it is a little bit silly, it won't matter. You have to wear what makes you feel great, without minding what others think. And so I did, and it was all fine.

Beret: ModCloth (old)

Dress: Dear Creatures via ModCloth (old)

Cardigan: ModCloth (here)

Tights: Primark

Heels: ModCloth (here)

So from now on I'll wear berets more often - even indoors.

Much love,

A Sweet Treat

A sweat treat for Valentine's day?
Why not wear it!

I'm so in love with this cupcake jumper. The moment I saw it I knew it had to be an addition to my wardrobe. It's so very "me" (she says about yet another clothing item with cupcakes on it).

Valentine's day is approaching, and I don't really celebrate it in any other way than eating some yummy treat and wearing something cute (preferably red). I'm a bit ambivalent about Valentine's day. It really is capitalist bollocks, but at the same time I sort of like a day to celebrate love.

I get bothered by people who seem to think that Valentine's day is simply for romantic love. I think it is a day where we should celebrate all kinds of love, including platonic love and self-love! Valentine's day does not have to be about being in a relationship, and it annoys me that people are anti-Vday because they are single. You can be single and celebrate Valentine's day anyway!! A life without romantic love is not a life without love.

Yes, media especially Hollywood films, seem to equal love to romantic love. It's like the value of other types of love have diminished over the years. The only love worth having is that of romantic love. But as someone who has never been in a romantic relationship - my love is worth just as much as your love, even if it is platonic! Just saying...

Now that I've done my preaching I'll go back to the outfit. I'm particularly happy with this outfit, and it feels like it is the perfect one for a day filled with treats (Vday!!). I adore the little collar clips that I got from the etsy shop, Femme De Bloom. They are so cute and I feel like the enhance the cupcake on my jumper.

I also love the small heels of BAIT footwear's Ione model. And it is surprisingly comfortable, which made me very happy to find out, as I had only bought flats from BAIT previously. I've got one pair of Ione's and one pair of Ida's, and I think the Ione's are more comfortable. What do you think? I know BAIT footwear is super popular amongst my followers on IG, so I'd love to hear which of BAIT's models you find to be the most comfortable.

Collar clips: Femme De Bloom (here)

Blouse: H&M (old)

Jumper: Unique Vintage (here)

Dress worn as skirt: Closet via ModCloth (old)

Heels: BAIT footwear via Unique Vintage (here)

In between

God fortsättning!
That's what we say in Swedish between Christmas and New Year's Eve and it basically means good continuation.

These days, between Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve are a bit dull in my opinion. I get this post-Christmas boredom, I suppose it's because it is after the whole excitement of the food and the gift-giving and getting, and so on. And the handful of days before New Year's feel like they drag along. I'm ready for the new year to start, and I can't wait for this old one to be over!

In my boredom I decided to wear a pretty outfit consisting of the blouse from Emmy Design that I got myself for Christmas. If you follow me on instagram (@curlsncakes) you know that I was wondering if people give themselves Christmas gifts. I usually do, what about you?

I sort of like the idea of giving a gift to yourself. Because in the end it's all about love, isn't it. Sure, we give gifts to some people because we "have to", but the best gifts are the ones given to people we really care about. So why not give one to yourself? It's the ultimate expression of self-love!

Blouse: Emmy Design (here)

Skirt: Chicwish (here)

Heels: ModCloth (here)

Much love to all of you!